Honesty interpreted wrongly...

"Thinking that you are honest,
Acting for what is best,
Strive for what you believe,
Regardless what others detest"


Sometimes being honest in all isn't such a good idea.
There are times where people would say," Hey, are you okay with this? I want to know your opinions, truthfully"..
Or
"Are you sure you want this? I mean, I'm okay with anything you know?"
and yet when you speak your mind, give your side of the story and your ideas to change things, people view you differently and start judging you.
Hey, and here I thought that I am free to think and give my opinions freely in this country?
Heck, I should be free to think and give my opinions freely to the WORLD, regardless of wherever I am, or what the topic is...
BUT~!
When one gives an opinion, no matter how false it is in reality and it seems to make the other party happy, it is accepted immediately without a problem at all.
How is that so?
How is it that giving truthful, honest opinions became a crime while giving opinions that are justified became a justified and morally accepted by the society?




True enough~!
But do you see the problem here?
Once you "declare" yourself indirectly or imply anything close to what another wants to hear, trust me when I say when THAT IS ALL THEY CHOOSE TO HEAR in a conversation..
One can be honest enough, but twisted to become what the other party WANTS to hear..
FOR example~

Boy A: Hey are you free this afternoon? Can I ask you a question frankly?
Boy B: Sure, what's up?
Boy A: You know when we go out later, do you mind if I bring a friend along?
Boy B: Well, I don't mind.. but remember we only have 3 tickets for the movie and that we have to meet up with the gurls after that..

(what Boy A hears): Well I don't mind.... = YES... blah~ blah~ blah~
Boy A: (cuts off Boy B) Aite thnx, cya later~!

When Boy A brings along 2 friends along, and Boy B had to give his own ticket to Boy A to be a good friend which makes the entire outing a disaster.
Boy B confronts Boy A later on.


Boy B: Dude~! Wth? I said that we only had 3 tickets!!
Boy A: BUT YOUUUUUUUU said it was find and that you DIDN'T MIND!!
Boy B: Yea, but if you and me were going, we only had 1 ticket to spare~!
Boy A: Whatever man, if you were not cool with it, you should have been HONEST~!
Boy B: I'm trying to BE honest here!!

Well, most of the time, honesty does NOT speak for itself.
To make things worst, to prove that you were HONEST to begin with, you have to logic out and reason to the other person that there were no ill intentions to begins with, and that you really meant what you said without a spite in the world.
AAAAAAND!
Failing to justify otherwise would only prove the HONEST one..

Yesh.. guilty of NOT being HONEST...
When in actuality, the person means well and says his opinion whole heartedly..

Stating anything other than the charged accusation would make the person guilty of being NOT honest in the 1st place for "changing" his/her statement, and thus STILL GUILTY!!






Any attempt to do something without the others knowing would also brand you being NOT honest without any justification.
It's funny isn't it?
If you fail to justify your choices, you are being NOT HONEST!
If you are not following what you said earlier, you are being NOT HONEST!
If you do not make yourself clear in any way, you are being NOT HONEST!

Seriously... even honesty is being questioned these days..

Piece~