"Some are friends in name,
Others just think its a game,
A few just want the fame,
Until one realizes they're all the same"
-Fai fai No-Reason
Hey guyZ... The question in my post today is, do people know the actual meaning of friendship?
Is it a simple situation where you stick up for a person, be with the person most of the time, a same line of though, or just simply being there when the person needs company the most?
I have to admit here that to me friends are just people.
People who I seem to know by name and by daily reaction.
There are some people who claim to be my friend and yet seem the be the most IRRITATING, THOUGHTLESS PEOPLE that I have ever met.
Worst still when it seem obvious that they are the insincere from a simple greeting, to a small care not to step on your toes.
AGITATION leads to UNCERTAINTY
How can a person who agitates you almost everytime you come into contact ACTUALLY be your friend?
I mean, I don't expect you to know my favourite food~
Heck, I don't expect you to know even by BIRTHDAY or what COLOUR I like!
All I ask is that you don't agitate me by doing all the small things I don't like, like how one would be careful on the first day of meeting someone.
Trying to set a good impression maybe?
Doesn't do good if you turn into rubbish 3 years later~
This happens when you TAKE FOR GRANTED that when a person doesn't say anything, means he doesn't complain.
Ok I admit that if you DO ask the person if everything is ok and he/she says YES and grumble later, then that person needs some alone time to sort out his/her thoughts.
UNCERTAINTY leads to DISCOMFORT
How can someone tolerate something in a long term and not be uncomfortable about it?
For example, if I am CERTAIN that my friend talked on the phone loudly because he got excited and not on PURPOSE to irritate me, I would say "hey, let bygones be bygones, its not like you MEANT to disturb me studying while you made the racket"
I would have just shrugged it off without every thinking on it~
But if I was UNCERTAIN about the motive of my friend when such actions are CONTINUALLY done after I let him of the hook for the first time, then that will DEFINITELY cause deep DISCOMFORT!
DISCOMFORT leads to AGITATION
And of course, how can anyone deny that?
If you are UNCOMFORTABLE with a person, no matter what he/she does, it WILL without fail, AGITATE you for NO REASON.
You will be irritated with him/her even if the person did no wrong in the eyes of others.
Even the mere sight of him/her just tapping away on the hand phone would be IRRITATING, although I would justify my irritation by saying he/she switched on the key tone (you know? the mode where the phone makes a noise for EVERY BUTTON you press) which is not sensible especially when someone in the vicinity is studying/sleeping.
But hey, if its a stranger in an external setting, I doubt I can be AGITATED to such a degree as I would be CERTAIN that the stranger did it UNINTENTIONALLY.
So they say that EXPERIENCE matter over LOGIC
Would you experiment putting your hand onto a high voltage fencing, OR reason with yourself LOGICALLY that it is not safe to do so...
Same thing applies in everyday life.
Would you piss off a specialist in the hospital JUST to see what will happen, OR reason with yourself LOGICALLY that doing that may just very well get yourself kicked out of the ward...
Thus do things logically~
Remember that every action you take has their own repercussions..
and NEVER take things for granted~
Its really that simple, is it too MUCH to ask in a so called "friendship" ??
Piece~
